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January 09, 2011



It feels like a lifetime ago since I felt exactly the same way. I feel for her. It's taken me years and years to get where I am now. And it's still something I need to work at. Even now there may be a slip where I decide to diet or miss a meal to lose weight. But luckily I realise it and stop it before it becomes an unhealthy behaviour. Food no longer has any power over me. I still want to lose weight but I do it in ways that I won't notice like smaller portions, walking more, etc. And it's especially difficult this time of year when absolutely everyone is on a diet or is telling you about how much weight they have lost doing x y and z. But i know that it comes with a price namely obsession, negativity and unhappiness. I'm happier now than I was when I was 4 stone lighter. Sorry to rabble on. Don't know where that came from. Hope you had a good Xmas and new year. X

Andrea Wren

Thanks for commenting Sarah, and I know exactly what you're saying. I also still occasionally go back to old-thinking, it's a force of habit, but like you, I'm so much wiser now about what is actually healthier behaviour, so I quickly challenge that thinking. It's an on-going process.

As well, I'm much happier now than when I was struggling to keep to a particular weight (about one and a half stone less than I am now). I envisaged this weight was my route to a perfect life and I spent so many futile hours trying to achieve it.

Times like Christmas used to be a nightmare. Now, I choose to over-indulge and eat when not hungry, but it's never in an obsessive or bingeing way. I actually 'allow' myself to gain a bit of weight at Christmas. I know that as soon as I go back to normal eating, it will come off. The idea of a few extra pounds at Christmas doesn't scare me, and through that, comes freedom.

Glad you're doing well Sarah, and I hope your comment offers hope to the lady who wrote to me.

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I want her to better life.

Kurt Lao

This is a very inspiring post Andrea. Well it's been exactly one year. Any updates on Susan? I hope she is doing better with your health advice. Anyway, it seems that Susan, based on the email, has lost a lot of self-respect. I think it's important that she gets it back. Having a healthy safe-image would permeate towards developing healthy eating habits.


One should be careful of what they digest, you'll never know when and how it will affect your life in the long run.

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  • I'm Andrea, and am obsessed with creating fabulous food. After I managed to ditch dieting, the reason Chocolate and Beyond was born, it seemed natural to evolve my site into a foodie blog. More so since I also ditched animal produce to be vegan. Now, I love showing how inventive cruelty-free cooking can be. And sometimes I like to rant, too. I wouldn't be myself otherwise :) x

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